We can truly become our own worst enemy when it comes to our style. The #1 thing that destroys a women’s sense of style are her own mental roadblocks. These mental roadblocks make us second guess every decision we make. When working with clients to develop their personal style, here are some key mental roadblocks I run into and help my clients overcome.
I just want to lose a few more pounds…
I’ve touched on this before, but it is very common and normal to feel like you don’t want to spend money towards developing your style and wardrobe when you feel you’re not at your desired weight. No more excuses or wasted time. No matter your size, shape, income, or lifestyle; you are beautiful and deserve to look and feel your best right now.
I don’t have the money…
Having all the money in the world cannot bring you style. You can get your entire outfit from Salvation Army or Goodwill and look like a million bucks. It’s not about money, it’s all about how you put the pieces together. At the end of the day, you either have style or you don’t. Most of my wardrobe nowadays comes from thrift stores. There are many clothing options now at every price point. So stop using money as an excuse to not start developing your personal style. Some of my favorite pieces are under $10. Don’t fall asleep on thrift stores and bargain shops.
I don’t want people to stare at me…
If you’re typically a person that does not care for attention then having people stare is an understandable fear. I’ve had clients say “If I start dressing better, people are going to stare and think I’m trying too hard”. I hear you and I get it, but isn’t that putting someone else’s needs over your own? Change is hard, but it will be even harder if you’re always worried about what others think. Your happiness should be first and foremost, period. Don’t let this mental roadblock stop you from having impeccable style.
I don’t know what looks good together…
Style can be taught. To some it may come easier than others, but overall you can teach yourself how to build stylish outfits. Pinterest has been such a game changer for me when it comes to developing my personal style. It’s even a tool that I use when working with my clients. I create a Pinterest mood board for each client that we review together and they must approve the board before I start shopping. Compiling a collection of outfit inspiration can easily be recreated. Once you start to get the hang of putting outfits together you can even put your own unique spin on it.
There are many things that can keep you from starting your personal style journey and all of these fears or concerns are valid. But what is important is how you react to those fears. It’s a mental game and sometimes you just have to tell your internal thoughts to shut the hell up and just go for it. In the end you will be happier that you did.
What are some other mental roadblocks that stopped you from starting your personal style journey? Leave a comment or send me a DM via Instagram. Until next time…
Mynka is a personal wardrobe stylist sharing some style tips, outfit inspiration, and using this blog as a platform to continue the important discussions surrounding sustainable fashion.